Do I ever speak harshly to my parents equivalent to or greater than ‘uff?’ Make dua for my parents.
It is amazing how Allah knows us-His creation. As we study the Qur’an each day we become more and more attached to it and in essence we become more and more attached to Allah (SWT). We go home, we take the lessons with us, we live it. We live our lives like before yet something is so very different.
I feel Allah is reaching out to me. He wants to help me. He is putting that lesson we cover each day in class because He knows I need the lesson for a better end result. It is a beautiful feeling that maybe cannot be explained in words. I am sure my other sisters feel the same way. This is the power of the Quran alhumdulillah.
Recently there has been a lot of back and forth argument between my mother and me. Of course children feel parents are being difficult and that there is what we love to call it a generation gap. In essence we are forgetting to follow the ahkam of Allah. I was so upset, because really I did not want to argue with her, yet the circumstance would be created that I end up doing definitely much greater than “uff.” It resulted in anger and fury– shaitan’s ploy and I gave into it. But immediately I felt bad and made a lot of dua to give me softness in my tone with my mom. Now after these ayahs, I am trying to find ways where I can reach to the level of what these ayahs are instructing me to do. I have a long way to go but I know dua and the Qur’an will help me. I learnt the dua Rabbir humhuma kama rabbayani saghira in my salah for some time now. I pray now more strongly than ever for my father’s maghfirah and for him to be granted Jannatul Firdaus inshallah.
In the previous Juz, in Surah Nahl, we covered the ayah 70: Wa minkum ma’een yuraddu ila ardhalil umur li kai la yalama bada ilmin shaia.., and I began comparing it to how true it was that older parents and older people sometimes just act like children! Sometimes when my children are arguing with me on something that is obviously insignificant, I give in. I do need to remember this ayah and the ones covered in this because it is a hukum of Allah and one that Allah detest if it is not followed.