How can I avoid becoming desensitized to sin?

Surah Al-Shura: 141-191

When I see sin around me that I cannot change with my tongue, then do I at least hate it from the heart? How can I avoid becoming desensitized to sin?

by Safia Kemal

Over the study of the Qur’an, the definition of sin has taken new meaning. Before sin was a broad terminology and maybe only included all the major sins. But through the furqan that Allah has provided for us, I realized that there are so many things I have been doing that fall under the category of sin, and I have not even realized it. We as humans continue to sin on a daily basis.  It is not that I have to go and kill someone to be sinning; backbiting, not listening to my mother, being harsh with people etc are all things that Allah condemns. All such traits are clearly given in the Qur’an.

So the first step to disliking what Allah dislikes or which is not accepted in the folds of Islam is to clearly know what falls under the folds of Islam and what doesn’t. Through this course, alhumdulillah I have learned, relearned and reconnected under a clearer light of what is right and wrong.

Additionally, a new learning for me from this lesson was the concept of hate. Usually, we are taught: no we should not hate. But the correct ideology is to hate things that Allah hates and not become like those whom Allah hates. We are taught an attitude through hadith, we should live by and teach our children.

“The declaration of faith, there is no god but Allah, requires you to love only for the sake of Allah, to hate only for the sake of Allah, to ally yourself only for the sake of Allah, to declare enmity only for the sake of Allah; it requires you to love what Allah loves and to hate what Allah hates.”
[Ibn Taimiya, al-Ihtijaj bil-Qadar, p.62.]

Now alhumdulillah, yes I am more aware of whether what is going around me is something that Allah may like or not like or the fact that it is what we are packing and sending Allah’s way and will be accountable for it. So I am either a part of it or not a part of it. There is no middle ground as such. Where I cannot stop a sin with my tongue, I dislike it from the heart. I think, usually, there are ways to stop something wrong from happening. Some way is there but we fear the initiative. You may not become very popular, but then we need to know who is more important,  people or Allah.

I can stop becoming desensitized to sin by:

  • Not accepting it
  • By knowing that I am displeasing Allah in the process
  • By not approving of it or being indifferent towards it.

by Sana Ahmad

Today people say that it’s better to ‘live and let live’, and that people have the right to make their own choices in life, and we have no right to judge them because we haven’t been through what they have. But if we really care about people, we should try to guide them. If we know about any sin they are committing then we should try to stop it. If it is not possible for us to stop it we should hate it, at least. A Muslim’s ethics and morality are defined by what is acceptable and unacceptable in the sight of Allah, not society, and it’s ever changing norms and traditions.

I do consider sins to be sins, however, it is important to remember to disassociate the sin from the person and not begin to hate the person because of the sin. The way to stop oneself from becoming desensitized to sin is to remember what the end of that sin will be, and how much it is disliked by Allah SWT, whose approval and disapproval of an act should be most important for us.

About Quran Reflections

Al-Huda's branch at Khayaban-e-Sehar is one of the few Quran courses being regularly conducted in Karachi, Pakistan, where the mode of instruction and examination is English. The students and teachers have decided to upload their reflections on the Quran and class notes on this blog, in order to be available to a global audience for the latter's benefit and inspiration.
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1 Response to How can I avoid becoming desensitized to sin?

  1. sadaffarooqi says:

    بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

    But the correct ideology is to hate things that Allah hates and not become like those whom Allah hates.

    This is a very important point you have made.

    We have to hate sin and transgression, as well as actions that fall under these labels, but not feel hate for the person committing them. This is a tricky issue that falls between the two extremities of hating people who disobey Allah and having an indifferent, relaxed attitude towards sin that borders on not considering it a sin at all. Disliking what Allah dislikes is a part of our faith.

    Jazakillahu khair. Keep the thoughts coming!

    Allah knows best.

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