بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
إِذْ يَتَلَقَّى الْمُتَلَقِّيَانِ عَنِ الْيَمِينِ وَعَنِ الشِّمَالِ قَعِيدٌ
مَا يَلْفِظُ مِن قَوْلٍ إِلَّا لَدَيْهِ رَقِيبٌ عَتِيدٌ
“When the two receivers receive, seated on the right and on the left. Man does not utter any word except that with him is an observer prepared [to record].”
[Al-Qur’an – Surat Qāf (The Letter “Qaf”): 17-18]
“Uff… now you have done this!”
“Oh No! Not again…”
“My kids are very naughty; they are not like other people’s children.”
“I am sick of everything and everyone around me.”
The largest chunk of all my conversation in a day is virtually comprised of complaints; some blatant and some more subtle. Nevertheless, I seem to complain everyday without fail about something or someone. It is tough to recall any day where I may have not complained. I have something negative to say about the weather, the electricity (or the lack of it), my children, my house help and many other things. Alhumdulillah, coming to the study of Qur’an has definitely brought some level of improvement, but I am still far from being a truly Sabir (patient) person. I pray to become a person who is patient at the first stroke of calamity, Insha’Allah.
Showing ungratefulness is done through different ways. It is articulated through words in form of complaints. It is through attitude by being rude and irritated with parents, parents-in-law, spouse and even kids. It is through body language and even in our thoughts through negative suppositions.
The discussion about other people tends to creep into our daily conversations. As much as I may seem to have become conscious about refraining from it there are still many instances when I could directly or indirectly be indulging in this bad habit. This, as per the Qur’an, leads to the displeasure of Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) and is equivalent to eating the flesh of your dead brother.
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ
“O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.”
(Al-Qur’an – Surat Al-Ĥujurāt (The Rooms): 12)
Anger and Sarcasm
Stern and sarcastic comments aimed at those around us are also considered harmless by us, while they may just become the reason for leading us to the displeasure of Allah (سبحانه و تعالى). Where is my taqwa (Allah consciousness) when I lash out at my near and dear ones? Moreover, at times we take out our inner frustrations or complexes by making fun of others and mocking them. These are not things to be taken lightly, and the best way to refrain from them is to keep one’s speech minimal and to-the-point. This check list makes me realize what am I getting recorded in my book of deeds. I should be conscious of sending ahead something I would want to see on Day of Judgment as we will be accountable for every move and every word of ours.
Allah’s Mercy overcomes His anger (سبحانه و تعالى) and there are many means of gaining His pleasure. Each time we suppress a feeling of anger or disgust and control our words for the sake of Allah (سبحانه و تعالى), we send that act ahead for ourselves.
May Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) give us the level of piety where we can weigh every sigh, every word and sentence before it leaves our mouths. Ameen