بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
قَالُوا إِنَّا كُنَّا قَبْلُ فِي أَهْلِنَا مُشْفِقِينَ
They will say, “Indeed, we were previously among our people fearful [of displeasing Allah ].”
[Al-Qur’an – Surat Aţ-Ţūr (The Mount):26]
The word ‘Mushfiqeen’ incorporates the meaning of two opposite things: it is the combination of both love and fear. It is when you have well-wishing and concern for your family members, and at the same time, fear of displeasing Allah (سبحانه و تعالى).
I am blessed with a wise dad, a generous mom, four unique and distinctive brothers, and a sister that I can rely on. Along with that I have bhaabis (brothers’ wives), nieces and nephews, each one adding their own charm to the family. Now, especially when I live away from them, I value the time that we spend together even more.
However, while I am with them I do feel like a ‘mushfiq’, because there are times when I feel that some family member of mine might be doing some act that might be displeasing to my Rabb. So at that time I have the utmost well-wishing, concern and desire to guide them to the Right Path, but at the same time I fear that they might not want to hear what I have to say, or I may be confused about the best way to approach them. Trying to promote good and denounce the wrong is extremely difficult and requires a lot of hikmah (wisdom). One needs to know how to say the right thing at the right time, as well as show a huge amount of patience and tolerance. May Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) guide all of us and help us to guide our family members towards the Right Path. Ameen!
I need to keep a constant check on myself in certain areas especially. For instance, sometimes I am so engrossed in conversations with family that I forget to pray my salah (prayer) on time; or I stay up till late and I miss my Fajr salah (morning prayer); or I get intimidated by a family member and am willing to forsake some of Allah (سبحانه و تعالى)’s commands.
Another way in which I should try and be a ‘mushfiq’ while being amongst my family members is that I shouldn’t become so easily influenced by an older sibling that it causes me to do something that displeases Allah (سبحانه و تعالى).
May Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) forgive our shortcomings and give us istiqamah (steadfastness) in all that we do for Him and may He make our intentions pure. Ameen!