Love of the Family

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Uzma Jawed

قَالُوا إِنَّا كُنَّا قَبْلُ فِي أَهْلِنَا مُشْفِقِينَ

They will say, “Indeed, we were previously among our people fearful [of displeasing Allah ].”
[Al-Qur’an – Surat Aţ-Ţūr (The Mount):26]

The word ‘Mushfiqeen’ incorporates the meaning of two opposite things: it is the combination of both love and fear. It is when you have well-wishing and concern for your family members, and at the same time, fear of displeasing Allah (سبحانه و تعالى).

I am blessed with a wise dad, a generous mom, four unique and distinctive brothers, and a sister that I can rely on. Along with that I have bhaabis (brothers’ wives), nieces and nephews, each one adding their own charm to the family. Now, especially when I live away from them, I value the time that we spend together even more.

However, while I am with them I do feel like a ‘mushfiq’, because there are times when I feel that some family member of mine might be doing some act that might be displeasing to my Rabb. So at that time I have the utmost well-wishing, concern and desire to guide them to the Right Path, but at the same time I fear that they might not want to hear what I have to say, or I may be confused about the best way to approach them. Trying to promote good and denounce the wrong is extremely difficult and requires a lot of hikmah (wisdom). One needs to know how to say the right thing at the right time, as well as show a huge amount of patience and tolerance. May Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) guide all of us and help us to guide our family members towards the Right Path. Ameen!

I need to keep a constant check on myself in certain areas especially. For instance, sometimes I am so engrossed in conversations with family that I forget to pray my salah (prayer) on time; or I stay up till late and I miss my Fajr salah (morning prayer); or I get intimidated by a family member and am willing to forsake some of Allah (سبحانه و تعالى)’s commands.

Another way in which I should try and be a ‘mushfiq’ while being amongst my family members is that I shouldn’t become so easily influenced by an older sibling that it causes me to do something that displeases Allah (سبحانه و تعالى).

May Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) forgive our shortcomings and give us istiqamah (steadfastness) in all that we do for Him and may He make our intentions pure. Ameen!

About Quran Reflections

Al-Huda's branch at Khayaban-e-Sehar is one of the few Quran courses being regularly conducted in Karachi, Pakistan, where the mode of instruction and examination is English. The students and teachers have decided to upload their reflections on the Quran and class notes on this blog, in order to be available to a global audience for the latter's benefit and inspiration.
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6 Responses to Love of the Family

  1. Well written, Uzma!

    This is a topic very relevant to all of us. Allah has warned us that some of our family members might even be our “enemy”, and to “beware” of them, in the following verse of the Quran:

    يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِكُمْ وَأَوْلَادِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوهُمْ وَإِن تَعْفُوا وَتَصْفَحُوا وَتَغْفِرُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

    O you who believe! Truly, among your wives and your children are (some that are) enemies to yourselves: so beware of them! But if you forgive and overlook, and cover up (their faults), verily Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [64:14]

    Maintaining the balance between giving them their rights, not mistreating them, and more importantly, not allowing them to become obstacles in our path towards Allah is indeed a tricky thing to do.

    May Allah guide us to please Him whilst dwelling among our families. Ameen.

  2. mariamwasti says:

    Alhamdulillah, today we had a get-together after our class and salah at Kh e Sehr. It was the students, staff, our helpers and children…our family! Those who’ve met for the sake of Allah SWT to learn to obey Him and please Him as individuals and collectively.

    It made me reflect on the emphasis our deen places on the unity, self-discipline, tolerance and collaboration amongst Believers in order for any work of deen to progress and be effective! It starts with us cleansing our hearts for one another at an individual level and then also standing shoulder to shoulder with humility and steadfastness in order to channelize our time, resources, relationships and knowledge in the ways most pleasing the Allah SWT.

    May He accept our efforts, place barakah in them and grant us more opportunities to collectively strive towards attaining His pleasure. Ameen.

  3. Kulsoom says:

    This was a nice and important reflection since it was telling us about the importance of family members. We should be grateful to Allah for blessing us with caring and loving family member since they are our greatest supporters.

  4. zubeida says:

    This reflection made me think of how important it is to have a focused family, the building block of the ummah,each member of the family also has a job allocation.Alhamdulillah for our Deen if we follow it with ikhlaas we can get the balance right with the Qur’an and Sunnah as are our guiding lights.

  5. sanahmad90 says:

    asa. very well written mashaAllah and it really explains the duty we owe towards our families. we have spiritual responsibilites towards them as well as physical.this helps our relationships grow stronger and we find support amongst people closest to us. Alhamdulillah!

  6. samreen says:

    Masha’ Allah well written Uzma. Our families are indeed sometimes a trial for us too. At times it is difficult being patient with our parents. Similarly we have to restrain oursleves from becoming heedless from Deen becuase we are so absorbed with our spouse and kids. Moreover, when we feel one of our siblings for example is doing something displeasing to Allah what do we do about it actually? May Allah give us the strength to face all these situations in the best possible way. Ameen

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