بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
وَلاَ جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا عَرَّضْتُم بِهِ مِنْ خِطْبَةِ النِّسَاء أَوْ أَكْنَنتُمْ فِي أَنفُسِكُمْ عَلِمَ اللّهُ أَنَّكُمْ سَتَذْكُرُونَهُنَّ وَلَـكِن لاَّ تُوَاعِدُوهُنَّ سِرًّا إِلاَّ أَن تَقُولُواْ قَوْلاً مَّعْرُوفًا وَلاَ تَعْزِمُواْ عُقْدَةَ النِّكَاحِ حَتَّىَ يَبْلُغَ الْكِتَابُ أَجَلَهُ وَاعْلَمُواْ أَنَّ اللّهَ يَعْلَمُ مَا فِي أَنفُسِكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوهُ وَاعْلَمُواْ أَنَّ اللّهَ غَفُورٌ حَلِيمٌ
“There is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Allah knows that you will have them in mind. But do not promise them secretly except for saying a proper saying. And do not determine to undertake a marriage contract until the decreed period reaches its end. And know that Allah knows what is within yourselves, so beware of Him. And know that Allah is Forgiving and Forbearing.”
[Al-Qur’an: Surah Al-Baqarah (The Cow):235]
Allah ( سبحانه وتعالى) knows our innermost thoughts but He is Al Halim (the Most Tolerant/Forbearing). How should we improve our conduct in light of this attribute of Allah ( سبحانه وتعالى) ?
Despite the fact that many times we do not do the right thing or think positively, Allah (سبحانه وتعالى) does not always punish us for it and this is a wonderful blessing that we should be immensely grateful for. We learn from the gist of a hadith that we get rewarded for thinking about doing something good even if we don’t get a chance to do it, and if we actually do it then our reward gets multiplied. In contrast, if we think of doing something wrong yet do not go through with it a reward is written down for us, and if we do follow through with it then only one sin is written down.
It feels weird to be asked how one can make use of an extra blessing, but I guess one way would be to realize that Allah (سبحانه وتعالى) is always watching us and listening to our thoughts and is tolerant in spite of all our wrong deeds and desires. Knowing this, one should try to avoid doing and thinking wrong things, and should instead focus on pleasing Allah (سبحانه وتعالى). It is like when you know someone is being extra kind and good to you and you want to reciprocate with more gentleness and propriety. You would want to only please that person and be more mindful of their dislikes. This would include avoiding their dislikes and pursuing their likes. Such should be our relationship with our Rabb, the Most Tolerant. Knowing He is closely observing us should prevent us from doing anything to even slightly displease Him.